Stuck up with a Stage 5 Clinger Guy? Here is What you Can Do
Who is a Clinger in Stage 5?
When someone you begin dating turns out to be a complete STALKER and CLINGY, you’re dating a Stage 5 Clinger. Typically, these individuals will begin slowly before revealing that they are Stage 5 Clinger.
Eventually, you will reach a point in your relationship where he will require your affection around the clock, which will no longer be endearing and could have serious consequences for your relationship.
How does Stage 5 Clinger Behave?
There is a difference between a guy sending you a few “thinking of you” texts throughout the day and constantly phoning or messaging you (even if you haven’t responded) to ask if you’re missing him or thinking about him. This is a major sign of a Stage 5 Clinger.
Each of you has a life outside of the other, including work, friends, and other duties; if he finds it difficult to accept that these things limit your attention to him, it might cause problems between the two of you.
Ultimately, you will feel overburdened by a companion who requires constant texting and phone calls. You may find yourself becoming more quickly angry and avoiding his calls.
Why does Stage 5 Clinger Behave this way?
His possessive behavior has nothing to do with the fact that he feels neglected. Being a Stage 5 Clinger is mostly a combination of a natural personality trait plus a history of trauma, loss, or abandonment.
Instead of feeling safe and secure as a child, this person likely felt fearful, insecure, and vulnerable. Thus, they are now concerned that the people they love will not always be there. The result is frequent affection and attention needs.
Stuck with Stage 5 Clinger? That is what you should do
His behavior as a stage 5 clinger is not always deal-breaking. Here are 2 things about your situation:-
Talk Him Over
Try speaking with him to explain that you cannot continue to prove your love for him. As for frequent communication, let him know when you’re available to text or speak during the day and what’s off limits (e.g. you can talk in the mornings, but the workday is not a good time). Work on your tone and it should not seem that you are dictating to him. Instead, simply explain that it is difficult for you to return his call before lunch and that you will do it as soon as possible later in the day.
Use Professional Assistance
If you are still not seeing any change you need to consider counseling. “A therapist may help you both grow self-awareness and teach you how to tolerate the needs of others.“
And if both of these techniques fail, you have to take a call on your relationship!