Attention Girls: Things You should know before Marrying a Mumma’s Boy
Many girls marry young men, believing that they are independent, but turn out to be Mumma’s boy. Then starts the real struggle due to mismatched expectations.
In case, you are already married to a Mumma’s boy, this article will surely help you cope with the situation in a more harmonious manner, thereby avoiding conflict
Here are those 5 things one should know before marrying a “Mumma’s boy”.
[Note of caution: These 5 things presented are based on the experience of certain volunteers]
He is Ignorant of his Privileges
A Mumma’s boy is generally showered with much affection and a touch of spoiledness. Mumma’s boy generally has no idea how many privileges they have and how spoiled they are. He is unaware of the fact that he is given the finest exotic fruits, fed whatever he desired, and given bedtime tea by his 60-year-old mother on a daily basis, and that is not the norm in every household. Girls, you need to make him realise this because spoiled sons live in another bubble that their mothers have built. If you want your marriage to last, start here.
He will Engage in Confrontation
Just as we dislike being informed of our flaws and inadequacies, similarly mumma’s boys dislike it when you attempt to burst their bubble. They will get defensive and may even weep like infants as they try your patience. They will do everything possible to force you to retreat.
So, what you should do?
Do not get aggressive. Do not use accusing language. They have lived this way for at least two decades, and your fresh entry cannot transform him 180 degrees in a single day. Some require weeks or months, while your husband may require a year or longer.
He may be Emotionally Fragile
He knows and has always known that his mother will always be there for him, but when it comes to his love life, he probably compared all the women he dated prior to marrying you to his mother. As a result, he got insecure. These are human traits, and we all possess something similar. Here is when your love comes into play. Let him know that you are beside him throughout these transitions. You are patiently awaiting his maturation and will always hold his hand. This makes guys feel wonderful, and if they love you, their performance will improve daily.
He will Reveal Everything to His Mother
In a marriage, there are certain topics, such as financial ones, that should be kept private between a couple. However, a typical Mumma boy will reveal everything to his mother.
- In order to cope with this, you need to simply stop communicating with him for a week.
- Then began sharing information with him that you want your mother-in-law to know.
- Slowly you will find that this trick will work, and he will no longer share it with his mother
You need to be that Bad Guy for Him
Whether you like it or not, a typical Mumma’s boy is a man-child. Their mothers become overly guarded. They will spoil him, therefore you must intervene as the bad guy. You will require him to pick up his dishes, clean up after himself, and assist with domestic duties, which his mother never required of him. This has the potential to make you appear like a “hunterwaali.”
So, what is the correct path? Be his dependable mother or companion, but not his “servant.” Treat him like you would like to be treated, albeit with a degree of firmness. Do you want him to lend a hand? It is a tall order, but if you want your marriage to succeed, you must literally become a multifaceted partner.